When Do Women Want Attention?

When do women want attention? - ALL THE TIME!!!

This is one of the first things that Tony Robbins teaches in his relationship mastery courses.

It's one of the simplest things you guys can do for your relationship, give her your attention. When? All the time!

She needs attention, if she doesn't get it from you, then she's going to get it from somewhere. And where would you rather she gets it from?

Listen to her, without interrupting, without jumping in with a solution. She wants to feel understood, so if you don't understand her (and lets face it, no matter how much of a human behavior expert you become, as a male, you will never fully understand your partner all the time!) just pretend that you do. If you want to offer her a solution, check with her to see if that's what she wants first. Sometimes she really is asking you for your logical problem solving skills, and when she does, you better man up and give it to her. It's just tricky knowing the right time to offer your solutions.

Pay her compliments, don't just say she's pretty or beautiful, comment on her accessories, her dress, her shoes, her hair, her jewelry, etc. Unlike us blokes, women actually spend a lot of time thinking about what to wear, so she will appreciate it when you acknowledge her.

Compliment her on her culinary skills, and offer to clean up, or collect the plates, do something, don't just be a lazy slob and treat your woman like a slave. It's not the 1950's any more. Participate in the household activities. It won't strip you of your masculinity, but it might just help with your relationship.

Take the trash out. That's your job.

Greet her at the door, kiss her, ask her about her day, ask if she want's anything to drink etc. Make her feel like she's the most important person in your life. Because she is.

Plan ahead. Weekend activities, holidays, etc. Give her something to look forward to. Remember she needs variety to be happy. Remember when you first started dating? What were you doing then that you're not doing now?

When I was looking for a suitable image to add to the post, I found a lot of "Girls want attention, Women want respect". With all due respect - Rubbish! Everyone deserves respect. Give your woman ATTENTION!

I was once invited to an opening day at a small business, I knew that the owners were going through a divorce, and it was awkward because everyone knew that the wife was just there to keep an eye on her financial investment. She was sat alone in a corner, not looking very happy. I could immediately see that she had gotten her hair done just for the occasion, so I went to say hello and commented how nice her hair looked. She lit up like someone flipped a switch.

With Valentines Day just around the corner, give her some attention.

To your success,
Trevor Long

Dreams Not Taking Shape?

Write It Down!

Before that skyscraper become a permanent fixture on your city street, it was a dream, a thought, an idea. And it would have stayed that way, unless the architect sketched it out first. Have you ever been to an architects office? There are sketches, drawings, plans and models everywhere, and there are many different variations, all for the same project. The final building is often quite different from the original concept.

If an architect can't get a simple building design right the first time, when he is qualified and that is what he does full time, how do you expect to get your goals correct the first time around?

Write it down. That's the first step to turning your thoughts into reality. Plus it free's your mind up to refine your goal, develop your plan, or do other stuff altogether.

Your conscious brain is like you carrying the shopping in from the car. You can only carry so many bags at once. You have to put some bags down before you can pick up some more. (There is no limit to how many bags your unconscious brain can carry, but that's another story, and has been covered in previous posts, and will no doubt be covered again!)

Write it down.

Refine it.

Get a clear picture in your mind of what it will be, sights, sounds feelings, smells, big and bright.

Make a rough plan.

Work out the first step - then DO IT!

Work out the next steps, think about the final steps.

Continually refine your goal and your plan.

Take massive ACTION each and every day towards your goal (Ok, you can take one day off a week, even God took Sunday off).

If it's working, keep doing it. If it's not working, do something else!

Rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat.

Someone once told me that goals should be set in concrete, and your plans made in sand.

I happen to believe that goals are just signposts on the way to success. As long as you are moving towards something, you will see signs along the way that might point you in a different direction, a new goal. That's fine too. As long it's not a detour for you to avoid doing what you know needs to be done.

To your success,

Trevor Long

What Is Your Destiny?

What is stopping you from having the life you want right now?

Every little decision, every value you picked up, every belief you formed - they have all, piece by piece, shaped the life you shaped the life you now lead.



What if you could make different choices?
What if you could change your values?
What if you could get rid of limiting beliefs and create new empowering beliefs?
If you could wave a magic wand, what would your life look like, who would you be, what would you do, what would you have and what would you give?

Make the decision now that your life will never be the same again.

To your success,
Trevor Long

Choices, Choices...

The Buddhist Monk, Thich Nhat Hanh, talks of choices taking you towards or away from your spirit.

I like to say that we are faced with choices every moment, that take you towards or away from your goals.

Mars Bar or apple?
Coke or water?
Read or watch TV?
Exercise or watch TV?
Make that call, or procrastinate?
Say something nice to your partner, or ignore them, or worse?

Most of the choices we face, and there are thousands every day, are very simple.

The choices you make in each moment lead you.

To your success,
Trevor Long

Can't Find What You Are Looking For?

You don't see with your eyes - you see with your brain!

Every second, over 400 billion bits of information flood into the brain, via all your senses, yet you are only consciously aware of about 2000 bits of information.

What happened to the other 399.99999 billion bits of information? Well, your unconscious mind remembers everything, but that's not much use to you unless you know how to recall it.

What is important is what determines which bits you "see", and which get skipped over.

That all-important, life-shaping decision is made moment to moment, day or night, awake or asleep, by a part of your brain called the reticular activating system (RAS).

The RAS is literally a little net made up of nerve pathways, at the base of your brain that connects the spinal cord, cerebellum and cerebrum. It acts as a filter for all the sensory input that you see, feel, hear, taste of smell. It then relays the signal on to the appropriate part of the brain for processing.

A mother who is fast asleep will wake at the slightest whimper of her baby, even when she is sleeping in a different room.

I once bought a Honda CRV, it was pillar box red, I was certain this was the only one of that color. Until I drove it home, then I saw them everywhere! How is that possible? Did everyone go out and buy one on the same day? No. I just became aware of them. They were there all the time. I just didn't 'see' them. Until I bought the car, my unconscious mind was programmed to not see a pillar box red Honda CRV, as soon as I bought one (has some emotional attachment to it), the programming changed and I could see them everywhere.

If you type the word 'poverty' into Google, what do you get? 167 billion references to poverty!
If you type the word 'wealth' into Google, you get 291 billion references to wealth.

Your RAS does the same thing for you, but it does it so quickly, it makes Google look like a chalk board.

Here is the most important thing about the RAS. When you program a specific idea or goal into it, no matter if you are asleep or awake, thinking about it or not, the RAS will do its job to filter through 400 billion bits of information every second to find precisely what you've told it to find.

When you create a clear focused picture of what you want, and emotionalise it, your RAS kicks in and doesn't stop until it finds what you are looking for.

Get CLEAR.
Get FOCUSED.
Get EMOTIONAL (in a good positive way).

To your success,
Trevor Long

Solving Your Business and Goals Puzzle

Success, in whatever field you choose, is not that complicated - as long as you understand how to look at it.

Think about the Rubik's Cube for a moment, a six sided puzzle, six colors, nine stickers on each side, and all you you have to do is match them up. Simple right?

Well what if I sat you down, blindfolded you, and put a mixed up Rubik's cube in your hand, if you started twisting it randomly, how long do you think it would take you to solve it?

Scientists estimate that it could take you up to six billion years! That's a long time.

Do you know that there are guys that can solve the Rubik's cube in less than six seconds?! There are guys that can solve it blindfolded, or behind their back (after memorizing it), guys that can do it with their feet, and even whilst juggling.

Now let's blindfold you again, sit you down, and put a mixed up Rubik's cube in your hand. This time we'll bring in one of these experts into the room. he won't tell you what to do, he'll just say "Yes" or "No" every time you make a move.

Do you think this will shorten the time it takes? Absolutely. This time, to match up all the colors, it will take you less than two minutes!

Your business, or your success journey, is a lot more like that Rubik's cube than you might imagine. It's not that it's complicated, after all the Cube only has 6 sides. It's just that at every twist you are faced with choices. Do you want to spend 6 billion years getting there, or 2 minutes?

Whether you are growing your dream business, or any dream, there is a systematic process that boils down to this:

You need to know, out of all the possible things you could be doing, which are the critically important few actions that you must take. And you need to be doing those few things every single day.

You could spend six billion years figuring those things out for yourself, or you could get a coach and/or a mentor.

To your success,
Trevor Long

What Attitude Are You Bringing to Life?

It's not what happens to you, it's how you perceive what happens to you. - Trevor Long

He was bitter and cruel, an alcoholic and drug addict who almost killed himself several times. Today he serves a life sentence in prison for the murder of a liquor store cashier who "got in his way." He has two sons, born a mere eleven months apart, one of whom grew up to be "just like Dad": a drug addict who lived by stealing and threatening others until he, too, was put in jail for attempted murder. His brother, however, is a different story: a man who's raising three kids, enjoys his marriage, and appears to be truly happy. As regional manager for a major national concern, he finds his work both challenging and rewarding. He's physically fit, and has no alcohol or drug addictions! How could these two young men have turned out so differently, having grown up in virtually the same environment? 

Both were asked privately, unbeknownst to the other, "Why has your life turned out this way?"

Surprisingly, they both provided the exact same answer: "What else could I have become, having grown up with a father like that?"

Tony Robbins - Awaken the Giant Within

To your success,

Trevor Long