Toxic Words

Toxic Words

I'm not talking about an argument with your partner. (If you practiced the art of always treating your partner with kindness, there never would be any toxic words between you).

We're talking about the words you think and speak, on a regular basis.

THOUGHTS

turn into

BELIEFS

turn into

WORDS

become

ACTIONS

which give you your

RESULTS

Imagine a woman who has the thought "I can't find the perfect man". (Positive or Negative thought?)

Now the problem is, she doesn't just have that negative thought once, she has it multiple times over a period of time. Eventually it becomes a belief - a fixed thought. (Empowering or Limiting belief?)

Then she starts telling people this story of how hard it is, using toxic words that poison the subconscious mind, which reinforces the belief. It becomes self fulfilling.

So this limiting belief drives the actions that she takes. So if she doesn't believe she'll ever find the right man, she won't take the necessary actions, and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

The result is she doesn't find the perfect man, which again reinforces her belief, and so the vicious cycle continues.

So how do we turn this vicious cycle into a virtuous circle?

Just as the above example started with a thought, that's where we make the change. We change the toxic words.

The 4 Most Common Toxic Words

TRY, WHY?, CAN'T & DON'T

Here's what to do with them:

TRY - change to I WILL or I WON'T
e.g. "I'll try to get the report finished today". Change to "I WILL or I WON'T get the report finished today." Make a commitment!

WHY? - change to HOW?
e.g. "Why does this always happen to me?". Change to "How does this always happen to me?" You will get a very different set of answers from yourself!

CAN'T - change to CAN NOT or I CAN'T YET, or I DON'T WANT TO
When you say CAN'T it's disempowering, when you say CAN NOT, it means you can do it, but you are choosing not to. This is empowering.
When you say I CAN'T YET, it means you are not going to do it now, but you ARE going to do it.
When you say I DON'T WANT TO, you are making active choice. You could do it, but you are preferring not to.

DON'T - change to WANT.
e.g. I don't want to eat unhealthy, becomes I want to eat healthy.

These are all very subtle changes that make a huge difference. Are you so very different from a successful person? No, the differences are very subtle. Successful people think a little differently, they have different beliefs, they say slightly different words, they take different actions, and the get different results.

So don't TRY this, just DO it.

To your success,
Trevor Long