Lacking Energy, Motivation, Confidence?

Are you lacking in Energy, Motivation, or Confidence?

Or perhaps all three?!

Picture this, you've had a hard week at the office, and on the weekend you partner reminds you that the garage needs sorting, the spare room needs painting, visit the mother in law, or some other chore that you really don't want to do. You say "Honey, I've had a tough week, I'm tired, the boss is on my back, I'm really stressed out, I'm really not sure how to do that, I just want to chill out in front of the TV".

All of a sudden, your friend calls up and says he has a tee-off in one hour at the golf course, and they are missing one player, they'll be picking you up in 15 minutes.

And Bam! Just like that there is energy, motivation and a confident spring in your step, and you are waiting eagerly on the doorstep for your buddies to pick you up.

What happened? What made the difference?

If your goal, lets take painting the spare room as an example, is not aligned with your highest values, you procrastinate, hesitate and frustrate yourself (and your partner, boss, etc.).

If your goal is aligned with your highest values, then you get disciplined, focused and reliable.

You will always have time, energy, money, to achieve things that are aligned to your highest values.

You are inspired to do them. You don't need anyone to motivate you.

"But" I can hear you say, I really 'should', 'ought to', 'got to', paint the spare room. How do I get myself to be inspired to achieve this goal?

The answer is to simply link it to your highest values.

Painting the spare room may not be high on your values, but impressing the relatives that are visiting from overseas might be. Or getting the room ready for you new baby.

Once you have a good enough, reason or reasons WHY painting the room will align with your highest values, you will find the time, energy and a way to do it.

The goal then becomes something that's ON the way, rather than an obstacle that's IN the way.

To your success,
Trevor Long

10 Steps to Successful Goal Setting - Part 3 - Imagine

10 STEPS TO SUCCESSFUL GOAL SETTING - PART 3

Imagine!

Vividly imagine have achieved one of your goals.

(use your VAK to make it more vivid)

Ask yourself, "What will having and achieving this goal give me?"

"What is important to me about this goal." e.g. money will give you a feeling of security and respect.

This will give you your VALUES. 

Ask yourself "Whats important to me about these values?" e.g. security will give you safety, and respect will give you love.

This will give you your CORE VALUE.

Any goal you have is just fulfilling your VALUES.

Everyone has a set of values, things that are important to them, and there is an order to these values, some values are more important to you than others.

Everyone has a unique set of values. e.g. a husband and wife in a shopping center. She might see shoes, handbags, kids clothes, kids education books and toys, while he completely ignores that and is focused on the latest tech gadget, magazines about business, the coffee shops, etc.

Our values are demonstrated in everything that we do, what we spend our money on, what we spend our time doing and thinking, who we associate with, what we fill our spaces with, etc. etc.

Lets just look briefly at money, and more specifically, how and what we spend it on.

Some people want to buy the cheapest of everything, they are always looking for a bargain, they shop at the Dollar shops, garage sales, flea markets, etc. Others are only interested in the most expensive, or 'brand' names. Still others look for quality at a reasonable price, and have the belief that they cannot afford to buy cheap.

Some people spend their money on experiences such as holidays and skydiving, while others invest their money for retirement.

Some people need to know and compare all of the technical specs of something, while others just buy something because of how it looks. Cars are a classic example here, "What size engine does it have?", "I don't know but look at the colour!".

No one is right or wrong, here, it is just that we all have a different set of values, and the order of importance is different. Dr John Demartini wrote an excellent book called The Values Factor if you want to delve more deeply into this.

For now, just look at your two 3 goals, vividly imagine having achieved them, and ask yourself  "What will this goal give me?" and "What is important to me about these values?". List them, come up with 5 or 10, and then put them in order of importance.

Oh yes, and remember your values can and do change over time, and you can, if you want, change your values if your current values are not taking youu in the right direction.

To your success,

Trevor Long

Gratitude is the Key to Your Growth and Fulfillment

If you count your blessings and are grateful for what happens to you, you will experience more blessings to be grateful for. 

This is a simple principle, yet it has the power to change your life.

There are universal principles that govern all things including our lives. If you were to give someone a gift, and they just looked at it and then tossed it aside without thanks, would you be inclined to give them another? Of course not. Well the universe bestows its gifts where they are most appreciated. If you are not grateful for what you have been given, why would the universe want to give you more?

Many people confuse gratitude with elation. They think that when they're elated about some event and go: "Oh, I'm so thankful for that!" that they are being grateful. But true gratitude actually has little to do with those temporary moments of happiness or elation.

Here are 5 tips on how to show gratitude

1. Say 'Thank you'. There is no limit to how many times you can thank a person, including yourself, and while it may only be two simple words, their meaning is universal and their effects can be profound.
2. Write thank you notes. Sometimes our best thoughts and ideas are those we do not try to edit, so let the message you write come to you in the moment. There is no need for the words to make sense to anyone but the person it is intended for.
3. Treat yourself. The greatest relationship we will ever have is with ourselves and it is wise to take the time to show ourselves that we are grateful for who we are.
4. Smile. A smile can be contagious if it comes from the heart and often tells a person so much more than words can say. Giving the gift of a smile can be a great way to show you are grateful.
5. Give a gift that counts. The power of a gift is ultimately the thought that goes into it. Take the time to really look at who the gift is intended for and what they value most in life. Everyone wants to be loved and appreciated for who they are. If you give a gift that that really speaks to their values - it's likely to be remembered forever.

- Dr John Demartini