The Reason You Don't Succeed - Part 2

Earlier today we said...

The reason you don't succeed is because you are too comfortable.

Recently I came across a classic example of a person not succeeding because he was too comfortable, and then through necessity, turning it all around.

The young man's parents were getting on in years, and were moving out of the city to retire in the country, while the young man had to stay and finish his higher education.

His mother did everything for him, and provided him with the necessities of life, but not an extravagant lifestyle by any means.

When I saw her recently, she was so happy that her son had finally got motivated. He had got himself a job, had been learning to wash and iron clothes, and learning how to cook some basic dishes.

She couldn't see the reason for the sudden turn around in his attitude and fortunes, but really its a classic case of  'the stomach and the backbone'. 

To paraphrase Newton and Zig Ziglar - "A person at rest will remain at rest until his stomach hits his back bone!"

In this case, the young man was smart enough to get moving before the crunch came, and luckily he had a lot of encouragement from his friends.

The crunch could come in many forms. A financial setback, losing your job, a stock market crash, losing a partner, a heart attack, etc.

The key here is to look far enough ahead and visualise what might happen if you don't take action now, attach so much pain to that event, and then start taking actions to avoid the inevitable.

To your success,
Trevor Long

Develop and Expand Your Inner Circle

You must have heard the the rule of "Your net worth is the average of the five people you spend the most time with."

By following this principle, you can raise your level of success simply by surrounding yourself with successful people and/or millionaires.

Sounds easy enough right? But how do you go about finding millionaires, or whoever it is that you you want in your life, want to emulate, to grow to be like?  

Take a moment now to check in with yourself to review your inner circle.

Do they have the income and or wealth that you desire?

Do they have the relationships that you crave?

Do they have the health and body shape that you want?

Do they have the skills you wish to acquire?

Do they have the lifestyle you aspire to?

We are continually evolving and need to continually review of who and what we bring into our lives. This doesn’t mean you have to drop all your old friends, however, it is sometimes necessary to remove negative influences that bring you down.

Don't be a S.N.I.O.P!

First, you need a target to aim for.

Make a list of 20 wealthy and/or successful people you want as a part of your inner circle. Maybe people you have not thought of yet...

Once you have your list, determine 2-3 people who inspire you and focus on making a connection with them, right away.

You must become intentional about creating new, beneficial relationships.

Reading about someone's success, and how they achieved it is extremely beneficial, but being able to pick up the phone and make a call, or send an email, or go for coffee, is way better.

One way to do this is to think of the most successful person in your community. Now think of how you can make a connection with them...

What clubs are they apart of? What events do they attend? What charities do they sponsor? These are all great opportunities to make a connection and break the ice.

When reaching out always remember to provide value. No one likes to feel like they are being used, or to be pestered by someone who wants something for nothing.

Spend some time focused on making new connections that will help you reach your success goals. This will be time well spent, and could lead to new lifelong friendships, and even partnerships.

This is not about finding a mentor or coach. We’ll cover in a future blog.

Go and meet and connected with even more people… YES! More! We can never have too large of a network, especially in this “small world.” You just never know what will come of one connection that you make at one event. (Consider this a "kick in the pants" to get crack'in on your network expansion for 2015!).

How is this relevant to your future success? Well, a successful brain is trained to constantly expand and evolve. It’s never too shy to reach out and make new connections with people of influence.

Like they say… “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know.”

I once attended a free seminar that was selling speaker training. I had no intention of buying the training, however the guy I was sitting next to turned into a business partner. It was certainly worth going out of my way to meet new people.

So right now in this moment, sit up taller, shine your confidence forth to the world, act from where you want to be, and the next time you go to an event, approach those people who you may have turned away from introducing yourself to in the past because you didn’t feel confident enough.

Step into your power. Step into the knowing that you are already successful.

To your success,

Trevor Long