Develop and Expand Your Inner Circle

You must have heard the the rule of "Your net worth is the average of the five people you spend the most time with."

By following this principle, you can raise your level of success simply by surrounding yourself with successful people and/or millionaires.

Sounds easy enough right? But how do you go about finding millionaires, or whoever it is that you you want in your life, want to emulate, to grow to be like?  

Take a moment now to check in with yourself to review your inner circle.

Do they have the income and or wealth that you desire?

Do they have the relationships that you crave?

Do they have the health and body shape that you want?

Do they have the skills you wish to acquire?

Do they have the lifestyle you aspire to?

We are continually evolving and need to continually review of who and what we bring into our lives. This doesn’t mean you have to drop all your old friends, however, it is sometimes necessary to remove negative influences that bring you down.

Don't be a S.N.I.O.P!

First, you need a target to aim for.

Make a list of 20 wealthy and/or successful people you want as a part of your inner circle. Maybe people you have not thought of yet...

Once you have your list, determine 2-3 people who inspire you and focus on making a connection with them, right away.

You must become intentional about creating new, beneficial relationships.

Reading about someone's success, and how they achieved it is extremely beneficial, but being able to pick up the phone and make a call, or send an email, or go for coffee, is way better.

One way to do this is to think of the most successful person in your community. Now think of how you can make a connection with them...

What clubs are they apart of? What events do they attend? What charities do they sponsor? These are all great opportunities to make a connection and break the ice.

When reaching out always remember to provide value. No one likes to feel like they are being used, or to be pestered by someone who wants something for nothing.

Spend some time focused on making new connections that will help you reach your success goals. This will be time well spent, and could lead to new lifelong friendships, and even partnerships.

This is not about finding a mentor or coach. We’ll cover in a future blog.

Go and meet and connected with even more people… YES! More! We can never have too large of a network, especially in this “small world.” You just never know what will come of one connection that you make at one event. (Consider this a "kick in the pants" to get crack'in on your network expansion for 2015!).

How is this relevant to your future success? Well, a successful brain is trained to constantly expand and evolve. It’s never too shy to reach out and make new connections with people of influence.

Like they say… “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know.”

I once attended a free seminar that was selling speaker training. I had no intention of buying the training, however the guy I was sitting next to turned into a business partner. It was certainly worth going out of my way to meet new people.

So right now in this moment, sit up taller, shine your confidence forth to the world, act from where you want to be, and the next time you go to an event, approach those people who you may have turned away from introducing yourself to in the past because you didn’t feel confident enough.

Step into your power. Step into the knowing that you are already successful.

To your success,

Trevor Long

Welcome in the new...

Australia Day is not only the anniversary of the First Fleet into Australia, it is also a day when Australia welcomes new immigrants into the country with citizenship ceremonies across the country.

By this day, most New Year Resolutions have fallen by the wayside. If not, well done!

If you keep doing the same thing, you'll get the same results.

What do you need to welcome into your life in order to achieve your goals?

If I said "Self Discipline", what area would you need to apply that to?

Your diet?
Exercise?
Finances?
Relationships?
Your house?
Your business or career?
Your studies?
Your spiritual life?

Which one resonated with you the most?

Pick something in that area, and apply some self discipline to that for the next 30 days, just one, just 30 days, and notice how things change for you.

And Celebrate! Aussie Aussie Aussie!

To your success,
Trevor Long

Goodbye Tokyo!

After 3 long weeks in Tokyo, I'm saying Sayonara Tokyo and heading home to my loved ones and warm weather.

So I'm curious, what do you need to say sayonara and goodbye to?

Lets look at 4 areas of life...

Your Health - What do you need to say goodbye to?
Junk food? Sweets? Too much booze, or other substances? Cigarettes? Lack of exercise? Coffee? Medications? Being 'too tired'? Lack of sleep? Too much sleep?

Your Wealth - What do you need to say goodbye to?
Uncontrolled spending? Not saving? Financial ignorance? Credit card debt? Personal loans? Gambling?

Your Relationships - Who do you need to say goodbye to?
Friends that are always complaining? Family members that put you down? A boss or co-workers? Your partner? Drinking buddies? That 30 yo son or daughter that is still living with you? Or maybe there are people that you just need to spend less time with? Or people that you need to set ground rules with?

Your Lifestyle - What do you need to say goodbye to?
Dining out too often? Holidays and trips away that are too extravagant? Buying yet another pair of shoes or a handbag? Expensive nights out on the town? Taxis? A house? A car? A boat? A motor cycle? A garage full of junk?Too much TV?

Most importantly, what and who do you need to say Hello to?

Did you know your coach can assist you with all of the above and so much more? We here at Get Centred are here to help.

To your success,
Trevor Long

10 Steps to Successful Goal Setting - Part 8 - Obstacles

10 Steps to Successful Goal Setting - Part 8

What are your obstacles?

Whats likely to get in the way of achieving your goal? 

Think of the obstacles.

Write them down.

Think about ways to overcome them, before they happen.

Clients often come to me for coaching with a problem, e.g.

I want to go on holiday, but I can't afford it.
I want to earn more money, but I don't have the skills.
I want to eat healthier, but I can't because I'm always tempted by sweets.

Can you see what each of them have in common?

"I want my goal, but my obstacle is in the way".

Yes, "my" obstacle, people can get very attached to them. It's funny how people can get so attached to something that doesn't really exist, except in their own imagination.

A simple way to eliminate obstacles

Include the obstacle!

How does that work, I hear you ask? OK, lets look at the 3 examples again, this time we'll include the obstacle:

I want to go on holiday that costs more than I have available.
I want to earn more money with the skills I have.
I want to eat healthier regardless of my desire for sweets.

It's a subtle change in language, but it's immensely powerful psychologically.

When you say "I can't afford it", it's a dead end. When you say "it costs more than I have available", the mind immediately asks the question "How can I have more money available?" And it will find a way.

"Earn more money with the skills I have.." Hmmmm, well I could...

"Eat healthier"... Sure I could eat healthy meals, and still have the occasional sweet. That's got to be better than eating crap all the time...

By knowing what they are in advance, it will be easier to overcome them.

Its like having the benefit of hindsight before you encounter them.

To your success,
Trevor Long

10 Steps to Successful Goal Setting - Part 7 - Timeline of Events

10 STEPS TO SUCCESSFUL GOAL SETTING - PART 7

Timeline of Events

Have a time line of events that need to take place in sequence, so you can tell if you are on track.

Work backwards, figure out the major steps to achieving your goal.

We call this 'salami slicing' your goals.

Take your big and scary goal, and break it down into smaller achievable goals.

e.g. Losing 25Kg might seem like a massive, almost impossible task, but can you lose 0.5Kg in a week? Much easier to visualise losing half a kilo a week, and in a year, there is your 25Kg gone, and you now have the body shape and size you desire.

So how will you break it down? Will it be dress sizes that you will visulise? If size 10 is your goal, then perhaps the previous goal to that, working backwards, would be a size 12. Work backwards till you get to your current weight and size.

It doesn't take a math wizard to work out steps along the way to your financial goal. You don't go from 0 to a million in one step (otherwise you would have already done it!). Maybe $500K is the next goal on the reverse timeline, then $250K, then $100K, then $50K, etc. all the way back to your first goal of $100 or $1000.

With relationships, your goal might be marriage. The previous step engagement, the step before that meeting the parents, all the way back to getting a haircut, then getting out of the door to meet people.

You get the picture.

Now get a big, bright, image of each of the steps, along the pathway to your success.

To your success,
Trevor Long

10 Steps to Successful Goal Setting - Part 5 - How Will You Know?

10 STEPS TO SUCCESSFUL GOAL SETTING - PART 5

How will you know when you've achieved your goal?

Do you have a day to day method for measuring if you are on course?

Financial Goals - This is one of the easiest to track, an amount of money in an account, a certain income, a certain passive income, gross income, net worth, number or value of shares or properties, etc.

Health Goals - Weight, dress size, body fat, heart rate, distance walked, ran, cycled or swam, number of reps, weight lifted, food and alcohol intake, medicines reduced or eliminated, etc.

Relationship Goals - This one is a little more tricky. Once you define your ideal partner, their attributes, characteristics, values, then you can say whether this one is on target or not. If its family and friends, then how will you related to them, how often, etc.

Lifestyle Goals - This is things like houses, cars, holidays, hobbies. Are you living in your ideal house, driving your dream car, taking as many holidays, pursuing your hobbies as often as you like, etc.

Define a way to measure if you are on course to achieve your goal.

Determine your signposts to success on the way, smaller goals or steps.

What will you see, hear, feel, smell and taste, when you have reached each of your intermediate goals and targets?

Celebrate when you do! How are you going to celebrate?

Phew! We are now half way through the 10 step process. More involved in goal setting than you thought?

How long to do you spend planning a 2 week holiday?

How long do you think the pilot and airline have spent planning for your international flight, or do you reckon they just 'wing it'? (Pun intended!) By the way, did you know a plane is off course 99% of the time? The autopilot makes continuous measurements and adjustments to the course to get the plane to its destination.

How long does the architect spend planning a multi-story building?

If you are hoping its a considerable amount of time, then you'd be correct.

This is your life we are talking about here, spend a bit of time sorting out a direction to head in, a plan to get there, reasons why you are going, and a way of knowing you are on track.

To your success,
Trevor Long

New Years Resolutions

I'm not much into New Years Resolutions, never have been,

Firstly, you don't need to wait till the beginning of the year to DECIDE on a new course of ACTION (Tony Robbins defines DECIDE as To Cut Off From Any Other Possibility).

Secondly, a resolution is not a goal, until you know WHY you want to achieve it, and have a PLAN of ACTION towards achieving that goal.

Lets look at a few examples of common New Years Resolutions:

I want to quit smoking -

• Why? - I will live longer, I will feel healthier, I will be fitter, I will smell better, I won't feel like a social outcast, my family and friends will be happy, I will be around longer for my kids.
• Plan of Action - Progressively cut down number of cigarettes smoked until its zero by end of Feb, delay first cigarette of the day by 5 mins every day, drink water instead of a cigarette, practice deep breathing instead of a cigarette, take a walk at lunch time, stop hanging around with smokers at work.

I want to lose weight - 

• Why? - I will be healthier, I will be fitter, I will live longer, I will look better in my clothes and swimsuit, I will look and feel sexier, I will be more attractive to the opposite sex, people won't call me names or look at me strangely, I will be around longer for my kids.
• Plan of Action - Decide on a goal weight or dress size, throw out all the junk food in the house, quit take away food and restaurants, especially quit fast food, plan weeks meals in advance, prepare a healthy lunch to take to work each day, drink more water, start and maintain an exercise program, get a checkup from my doctor, weigh myself daily, no more than one standard drink when drinking alcohol.

I want to get my finances under control - 

• Why? - I'm spending too much money on stuff I don't need, I can get out of debt, I can save for the house/car/holiday, I want to prepare for my retirement, I want to invest in property/shares, I want to be able to take care of my parents, I want to send my kids to private school, I want to be able to contribute to a worthy cause, I want to own my own house debt free.
• Plan of Action - Make a list of all debts and assets, start an automatic savings plan, start to domino my debts, record every dollar spent, identify financial leaks eg. eating out, foxtel payments, drunken taxi rides, get a better deal on your mortgage and utilities, research investment options.

OK, so that's just a few of the things that clients regularly come up with during a goal setting and planning session.

Which do you think has more chance of succeeding beyond Jan 5th, the drunken New Years Resolution, or the carefully thought out goal that has reasons why and plan of action?

Congratulations if you chose the latter! You can do this at any time, however the New Year is an excellent time to set yourself up to win for the next year. You normally have some time off to reflect on your past year, your wins and your learnings, and set a course for the next 12 months.

Your coach is an ideal sounding board to assist you with this process.

To your success,

Trevor Long

There is no Law of Attraction...

There is no Law of Attraction... Without ACTION!

The big thing they left out of The Secret, and they did it so that The Secret would sell better, is that you need to take ACTION towards your goals, otherwise you are just wishing, wanting and hoping.

One of my mentors, Sharon Pearson, calls wishing, wanting and hoping "The three old men of failure".

Who would buy a self help book, or watch a movie, if it entailed, OMG, taking ACTION?! 

Imagine for a moment, that your deepest desire was to become a renowned heart surgeon. You dreamed of it all day long, you meditated on it, you put it on your vision board and you said your affirmations twice daily. Is that going to allow you to be a heart surgeon? I think not. You might have to do some study first, get into medical school, spend many years training and practicing before they even let you near a heart with a scalpel. You would need to take some pretty definite, targeted ACTION.

Whether its health, wealth, relationships, career, business, etc. you are going to have to start doing actions to achieve greatly.

Sure, all the visualising, meditating, vision boarding and affirming is important, as long as you are taking actions towards your clearly defined goals.

If all you want to achieve is get a phone call from a distant friend, or manifest an empty parking spot, then sure, not much action required there, but for anything else... you guessed it... take ACTION!

I think Jim Carrey said it best....

To your success,

Trevor Long

What can hypnotherapy and coaching do for you?

People often assume that life coaching is just about getting motivated to achieve your goals.
Whilst this is a major focus of coaching, what we do in transformational coaching is help you overcome the blockages that are preventing you from having the health, wealth, relationships and lifestyle that you desire, so that you can progress naturally towards those goals, without the struggle, stress, pain and disappointment that has been holding you back until now.

To discover how coaching can benefit you specifically, sign up or send an email, with a request for an obligation free, 20 minute discussion.

To your success,
Trevor

Les Brown It's Possible!

Time for a dose of motivation!

It's possible! If one man can do it, so can you. What do you think about that?

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How To Use The Ultimate Success Formula (made famous by Tony Robbins)

What do you think is the best way to make sure you achieve your goals?

1. Know your OUTCOME.
2. Take massive ACTION.
3. Notice the RESULTS you are getting.
4. Have the flexibility to CHANGE what you are doing.
5. Always operate from a PSYCHOLOGY and PHYSIOLOGY of excellence!